See What I Mean
A Live Online Experience for 2 people to do together
Also available in-person in DC Metro Area
Reconnect, feel heard, and talk deeply
Not just a workshop — a transformative mini-retreat
for a different kind of conversation
Do you ever feel alone together?
Why is it sometimes so hard to talk to each other?
We depend on words so much to communicate with the people we care about, and yet sometimes words fall short. Or betray us outright when others misunderstand us.
We ask "how are you?" and never really get past "fine." We talk about the kids, what's for dinner, what show we're binging, or that new hobby we're trying.
But there's so much more to share.
Or we try to go deeper, but we both get caught up in listening to respond, instead of listening to really understand. Talks turn into arguments.
You get two sentences in to telling someone how you feel, and they jump in to tell you how THEY feel, or how you're wrong, or the same thing happened to them, or to give you advice.
The result is a lot of missed opportunity to really connect with people we care about.
If talking to people sometimes feels like a missed connection, it's not you!
It's the whole structure of dialogue.
Words are great for many things. But for really understanding each other and seeing what each other is struggling with, words are a blunt instrument.
From the time we learn to talk, we’re trained in the conversational rhythm: take turns, don’t dominate, give other people a chance to contribute. One person talks a bit, the other responds, back and forth like a ping-pong game.
But real connection doesn’t always follow that pattern.
Sometimes, the most important part of a conversation isn’t your response. It’s your willingness to pause, to reflect, and to stay with what was just said. The urgency to reply can shut down the moment before it even has a chance to deepen.
That’s where the See What I Mean Experience comes in.
See What I Mean uses a structured, creative conversation method that helps you say what you didn’t even know you wanted to say — and hear things you didn’t realize you needed to hear. Using the BioGraffs method (kit included!) you'll create a visual “map” of your thoughts, you’ll open up conversations that are surprising, insightful, and powerfully connecting.
It's a relationship building activity where you will learn powerful communication skills.
This experience is grounded in evidence-based therapy tools. It draws on ideas from Internal Family Systems—understanding the different parts of ourselves. From Imago therapy—learning how to really, actively listen without interrupting, correcting, or fixing. From Narrative Therapy—understanding your life as a collection of stories. And from Somatic Therapy—processing things experientially.
You and your partner will slow down communication to create space for vulnerability, reflection, and connection.
It’s an online couples workshop that allows emotions to breathe and meaning to emerge—safely, creatively, and often unexpectedly.
What if there was a way to help
you have a really good conversation?
See What I Mean is a 90-minute online workshop you do with a partner, a date, a friend, or a family member. It offers a fun, creative way using a unique method, called BioGraffs, to improve communication and feel truly heard.
Guided by Jennifer Beman, creator of the BioGraffs method, you and your person will transform your thoughts and feelings into a visual story with the BioGraffs package (yours to keep and keep using!) to represent complex ideas and feelings. You'll learn communication skills you can use long after the workshop is over.
It’s a totally unique approach. It creates the space and the intention to go deep. Most of the 90 minute workshop will be you and your partner talking to each other, with real-time guidance from Jennifer as your communication coach.
You'll talk, with the help of powerful visual aids that you create — you’ll SHOW each other what you mean.
It's a creative relationship building activity.
The result? More insight, more connection, and a shared experience that brings you closer.
Together, you decide what to bring to the experience. It can be light and fun, or can bring depth, and even conflict, to work through. It's totally up you.
It's creative but even people who claim they aren't artists have fun with this, and are surprised the depth of meaning that can be expressed.
Who It’s For: This experience is designed for couples, date-night duos, close friends, family members – any 2 people who want a deeper connection. Plan it with your spouse. Get together with your best friend. Do it on a date. Do it with your mom.
Whether you’re looking to strengthen a romantic relationship, reconnect with a friend, or improve family communication, See What I Mean is a low-pressure, transformative space to hear, share, and understand each other better.
Set Your Intention for Deep Talk
Learn a tool you can use again and again, anytime
How "See What I Mean" Changes the Conversation
❌ Before: You never seem to find the time to share deeply
🟩 After: You intentionally make space to do the method on a regular basis
❌ Before: You talk about your day, but it's all kind of superficial
🟩 After: You both share deeply about your feelings and perspective
❌ Before: You express a feeling and it turns into an argument
🟪 After: You get out the materials and both take the time to listen for understanding
❌ Before: You aren't sure how you feel about something or if you are on the same page
🟩 After: You make space to do the method on a issue between you, and work it out
❌ Before: You spend another night watching Netflix
🟪 After: You learn something new about what's going on in each others' lives
❌ Before: You ask how their day was and they say, "fine."
🟩 After: You do something fun together that gives you each a real window into what's new
What Happens in the Workshop
Make the plan: pick a date that works for your person to get together with plenty of time. Give at least 10 days to receive your package of materials.
Fill out a really simple, brief questionnaire. I'll use this to help you get the most of the experience.
You'll need a computer and space for people to work. Click on the zoom link I'll send you at the designated time. It's just you and your partner, and Jennifer.
Then here's what will happen:
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Jennifer will tell you all about what you're going to do, in a fun and engaging way.
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Based on your questionnaire, Jennifer will suggest some ideas tailored just for you for what you are going to explore together. The next step is all about you and what you want to bring to this experience.
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Now you know what to do, and you and your partner will work on your own for 15 minutes. On the zoom, you're in a private breakout room together, and Jennifer will pop in and see how it's going and if you have any questions. Or you can raise your hand, and she'll come by. It’s like having a communication coach right in your living room, making sure everyone knows what to do.
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Back in the zoom, Jennifer will guide you on how to TALK about what you've each created. This is where the real magic happens. Talking about the BioGraffs gives each person a chance to go deeper into what they've now THOUGHT deeply about. Their listener is open and ready to listen deeply, with curiosity and attention.
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In your own private breakout room, you and your partner will take turns sharing what you've created. Raise your hand if you have any questions and Jennifer will come by.
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Back in the main room, Jennifer will give you tips and ideas for carrying this forward. You'll probably want to keep talking about things that came up! You now have a POWERFUL tool to keep connected in your daily life and work together on issues between you.
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Suggestions for next steps: After the session, Jennifer will send you a personalized strategy suggestion for continuing to use this tool, with ideas for what to do in the future.
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Session Recording: You’ll get access to the workshop recording for 10 days afterward. Re-watch it to recap the tips or catch anything you missed.
Real People Experiences
Brains aren't great at communicating emotions
Your brain is great at thinking. It’s also great at spiraling, overanalyzing, jumping to conclusions, and ruminating. Especially when emotions are involved.
That’s why we need externalization—a psychologist's word for getting your thoughts out of your head and into the world where you can actually see them.
Journaling is one way to do this. This is another.
🎯 Get it out of your head
In the See What I Mean experience, you and your loved ones will take what you’re thinking or feeling, and turn it into something physical.
In this case? Little objects on a table, magnetic cubes and two whiteboards.
When your thoughts are outside of you, your brain interacts with them differently. You can look at them, move them around, make connections. You’re not just reacting—you’re thinking clearly.
🎤 Now Tell the Story
Once it’s in front of you, it’s easier to talk about. You’re not fumbling for the right words anymore—you’re literally pointing to what you mean. You’re showing the person next to you how it feels.
And here’s the cool part: the listener?
They’re not just hearing your words. They’re seeing your story unfold. And their brain lights up—because brains love a story. Especially when it has props
A Tool You Can Use again and again
See What I Mean
An online Experience for 2 people to do together
Also available in-person in DC Metro Area
A live online Experience that helps you literally see what each other means. Connect on a deeper level through playful visual storytelling.
Ready to Join Us?
For the price of a night out, you and a loved one can share an experience that opens up a whole new way to communicate. This is something you'll keep using: for regular relationship check ins, to help with conflict, or for a fun night together.
Reserve your spot and I'll send out your kit for your personal See What I Mean session. Get ready to discover a creative, heartfelt way to understand each other. We can’t wait for you to see what we mean – literally!
